Assallammualaikum & hi everybody!
I’ve been quite buzy these two to three days, but I really cant stop writing abt this interesting article that I’ve found and watched in Oprah.
We all are fully aware that the beauty trend in Malaysia is that the skinnier you are the better it is as the thinner girls are considered beautiful & pretty compared to the beefy and voluptuous ladies.
Well, I really agree with this as I also feel the pressure to be thin & slander. I come from a family whereby our genes are “tall & big”, or in a more understandable words, “extra more pounds and height”. My mother is a Baba Chinese, whereas father is from a mixed parentage of Pakistan, Bugis, India and Malay. So, me and my sisters are like “rojak”.. hehehe.. My mother and sisters and me are approximately 5 feet 7 and 5 feet 9.. And we weight more than the ordinary Malays. It was tough growing up to be fat and big, despite of our healty routines in food and sports (my mother, my sisters and I are athletes, presenting Malacca in netball, hockey and shot putt).. We are so used to the words like “gemok, giant, debab, tembam, fatty” and all sorts of disgusting and annoying words.. Well, we cant blame anybody because it is the trend here in Malaysia. The media are focusing and stressing that only thin girls are beautiful and deserved to be loved… So the mentality of the people can hardly be changed… But I guess if the situation is the same like in Mauritania, then maybe we already got hundreds of marriage proposals!! You know why? In Mauritania, the more pounds you have, the more chances of you getting married and be the centre of attraction to the men over there!! I’ve watched Oprah regarding this topic in her search of Beauty Definition around the World…
I provide here the article that I found in Oprah.com.
“In the United States and many countries around the world, thin is the standard when it comes to beauty. But in a West African country halfway around the world, bigger is definitely better. Mauritania is a desert oasis that sits on the northwest coast of Africa. Here, a woman’s beauty is revered—but thin isn’t in. In Mauritania, plump is sexy!
While it might sound nice to throw dieting out the window, it’s not all pleasant. For generations, young girls were subjected to the practice of gavage—or force feeding—in order to fatten them up and make them more desirable. In Mauritania, many say the more you weigh, the better chances of you have of finding a husband.
Although force feeding is now frowned upon by the government, old habits die hard in remote areas of the country. Some young girls spend hours each day in the stifling heat, forced to stuff themselves with couscous and high-fat camel’s milk. Vomiting only leads to another helping of food.
Even in Mauritania’s more progressive cities, some women are willing to do anything for a fuller figure, including buying black-market drugs meant for animals.
Houda, a woman who grew up in Mauritania, says her father is a doctor who sees the negative effects of the country’s big idea of beauty. “My father deals every day with women with serious, serious health issues such as high blood pressure,” she says. Even though the problems associated with obesity, like high blood pressure, heart disease and diabetes are prevalent, Houda says that doesn’t deter women from wanting a big body. “When you’re skinny, you’re even considered as sick or there’s something wrong with you,” she says. “Women that are fat, they’re really happy.”
Thick ankles, plump arms and a big butt are considered the most beautiful parts of a woman, Houda says. And don’t worry if you have a few stretch marks—the men in Mauritania love ’em! (I really love this part.. heheheh)
Not only are extra pounds considered sexy—Houda says being divorced will win you extra points with the men too! “In Mauritania, you just get divorced and there’s a feast, a party—and the more you get divorced, the more you’re seductive,” Houda says. “That means that a lot of men want to be with you.” (another point that i like 🙂 )
“So if you are divorced with stretch marks and a big butt, Mauritania is calling your name!” Oprah jokes.
Yeaahhhhhhhhhaaa!! Maybe I should consider moving to Maurtiania together with my mom is sisters.. heheheheheh.. Its really interesting to know this fact. (Fyi – this is a Muslim country). Of course, we know, being fat is unhealty, but who says the skinny people does not have any disease as well? Who can give such a guarantee??? I know this guy who has been teasing me by calling me “Gemuk” everday at school, a skinny tall guy, who thinks he is really healthy but now end up in IJN having a heart disease and on the other hand, Alhamdulillah, I am still healthy & happily married!!!
Girls, if you are reading this article & having problems with your weight and thinking that nobody will fall in love with you just because you are fat, you are absolutely wrong.. Look at me, i’m fat, but I’m married to a wonderful loving husbdand!! Pure Love does not exist because of your looks, your weight or your height.. It comes from deep inside, from your heart.. So, if you come across any rude or “mentally disordered” guy who keeps on teasing you abt your weight, then just hut him up with a slap, or tell him this – you are not worth anything as you are teasing and undermining the creation of Allah.. 🙂
To all those guys who likes to tease and make fun of girls or women like me, just think abt this – ALL of us are the same before him, despite of how we look… They may be fat, but they may be the ones who will be in heaven!
I hope this article means something to all of you.. Remember, Beauty is only skin deep.. It wont last forever.. Beauty is always in the eyes of beholder..
p/s: I might consider having a vacation in Mauritania soon.. ehehehehhe 😉